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The Indigo student is not only perceptive but intuitive enough to understand when someone has an ulterior motive. Many are gifted with the ability to "read" people. Therefore, it is not a wise thing to try and convince an Indigo child to do something they will not want to do.
An example of the above insight involves their intuition and mutual respect: Some of my Indigo students in my poetry class asked if I was going to a school function for Seniors. I did not want to give the honest answer but finally gave in because I knew anything less was dishonest. I said,"Since you asked me in a straight-forward way, then I will tell you the truth. No, I am not going because I do not like the way some kids' feelings get hurt at these events." End of discussion. Next evening the student who had asked the question had her feelings hurt very deeply at the event. It was not a teaching moment for me but an experience that I think she will always remember.
They do not respond readily to guilt trips, absolute authority, or peer pressure that is without integrity. It is integrity that must be included in every conversation, lesson plan, note or everyday comment. The Indigo student appreciates the honor you give when teaching them with integrity.
However, it is important you respect yourself and also model your boundaries. Indigos will respect their parents and teachers sincerely who display personal respect and do not easily give away their power. It has been my experience that that if I tell my students how I am feeling before a class, they will respond appropriately.
Presenting choices often clarifies to the Indigo student their need to choose and commit. It will also help them to organize their priorities. Freedom to choose will help the Indigo student realize their own boundaries, limitations and share in the decision-making. Since they do not operate well with absolute authority constructs and old systems, their non-conformist ideals will prevail.
If one is pushed into the "corner" by an Indigo for an answer immediately on a decision, it is best to say, "Let me think about it." This is not dishonest, you are basically asking for more time to consider the matter.
I had one vocal, independent Indigo teenager crowd me into the "corner" regarding a matter in class. The subject and time were not appropriate for class discussion. The continued to press me for an answer and I replied, " Let's talk about this later. We definitely can talk later." The student smiled at me and calmly returned to her work. In that instant I had honored her request and also projected my authority in the classroom. The student followed up on the later time to talk and it was a productive conversation.
Help the Indigo student to discover their spiritual values and belief system. Organize your class space, lessons, home-school, and family around expected outcomes and principles of appropriate behavior. Allow the Indigo child to achieve their outcomes and self-identify principles of appropriate behavior. Burdening the Indigo with absolute authority figures for the sake of tradition will not inspire these gifted and fearless souls. Remember that the Indigo has a great heart for humanity and innate empathy for social justice. They will always respond to heartfelt desires and habits.
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Created and maintained by Diana T. Mackiewicz, M.Ed July 2002. Last updated Summer 2012.